If a women commit suicide in india, Media make big issue out of nothing, Her parents will tell by default its a Dowry Death; Police will take action and arrest all members of Husband.

But in reality, more men than women commit suicide because of stress of marital life, and no one reports.

Here is news of Women Suicide and the TRUTH, why more men commite sucide.

New Delhi, Nov 17 2008 A married woman commited suicide at her homes in the national capital Sunday, the police said.

According to the police, Saroj, 25, committed suicide around 11 a.m. by hanging herself from a ceiling fan when she was alone at her house in NDMC colony near Mandir Marg area of New Delhi.

Her parents alleged that she committed suicide due to dowry harassment by her in-laws.

However, her husband Rajesh, a sweeper with the New Delhi Municipal Corporation, told the police that Saroj was in depression as she had no child even after four years of marriage. She was reportedly under medication for not being able to conceive.

And the TRUTH is

Indian Men are leading a troubled and stressed out life and as per National Crime Records Bureau, almost 75000 men committed suicide in 2006. This is almost 80% more than women who have committed suicide (app. 42000).

The age-wise break up is as follows:

We can see that almost 60% of suicide by men is by those falling under the age bracket of 30-59 years. These are the prime years for any man, when he gets married, sets up his family. He slogs all these years to give a comfortable life to his wife, parents, best education to his children and an assurance of comfortable life to his family in old age. This is an enormous burden and herculean responsibility, in fact a job of a super human, but, we all now, he never complains about it. Delivering a super human responsibility by a normal human, does take a toll and puts enormous pressure on him, which he many find it difficult to cope up with, gets frustrated and hopeless to take drastic step as that of committing suicide. We can very well see that almost136% more men commit suicide than women in this age bracket of 30-59 years. This is more than double and simply startling.

Just to have a look at the suicide rates by marital status:

We see that 86% more married men have committed suicide in 2006 compared to married women in the same year. In fact, for never married status also, more men have committed suicide (77% more) than women. As already status above, married men are under more stress due to super human responsibility they carry leading to more suicide committed by them. Even, unmarried men are always under pressure to fulfil their role i. e of taking care of their parents.

There are various reasons why men commit suicide. Some of them are Illness, Family Problems, Bankruptcy or Sudden Change in Economic Status, unemployment, poverty, love affairs etc. It is important to note that the chief reason that drives men towards suicide is Family Problem (Refer Annexure 1: NCRB data for 2006). Almost, 25% of suicides by men (18672) was due to family problems in 2006.

Age-wise break up is as follows:

More than 50% more men committed suicide due to family problems in 2006. In fact, more than 60% of the suicides were by the men falling under the age group of 30-59 years. As it is also clear, more than double the men committed suicide than women in this age bracket due to family problems. This throws up a very important question:

WHO IS MORE OPPRESSED IN A MARITAL RELATIONSHIP? A MAN OR A WOMAN?

We, Save Family Foundation (a registered NGO), conducted a study on Domestic Violence against Men along with MyNation Foundation(A registered NGO). This was an online survey, where the respondents were Indian Husbands from all economic and social strata though most of them belonged to middle class and upper middle class. The result of the study though not unexpected but was startling as more than 98% of respondents had suffered domestic violence more than once in their life.

(Refer Annexure 2 for Full Study Report on Domestic Violence against Men).

Our study simply confirms to the NCRB report on suicides of men due to family problems. We find that men in the age group 30-59 years, not only shoulder super human responsibilities but are also invariably subjected to domestic violence in the form of physical abuse, emotional abuse, economic abuse and sexual abuse. No wonder, they are killing themselves like nine pins.

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Everything under the sun is Sexual Harassment

Under the proposed Sexual Harassment at Workplace Bill, 2010; 
everything a women say is a sexual harassment. After reading the 
definition of sexual harassment, I as an Advocate could not find an 
allegation which can said to be not sexual harassment. 

The terms Sexual Harassment has been defined in Section 2(m) of the
Act, read with Section 3,  which reads as, 

Section 2(m): ''sexual harassment'' includes such unwelcome sexually
determined behaviour(whether directly or by implication) as—(i)
physical contact and advances; or(ii) a demand or request for sexual
favours; or(iii) sexually coloured remarks; or(iv) showing
pornography; or(v) any other unwelcome physical, verbal or non-verbal
conduct of sexualnature; 

Section 3 reads as, 

3. No woman shall be subjected to sexual harassment at any workplace
which mayinclude, but is not limited to—(i) implied or overt promise
of preferential treatment in her employment; or(ii) implied or overt
threat of detrimental treatment in her employment; or(iii) implied or
overt threat about her present or future employment status; or(iv)
conduct of any person which interferes with her work or creates
anintimidating or offensive or hostile work environment for her; or(v)
humiliating conduct constituting health and safety problems for her. 

After reading this I was just thinking if there is anything which is
not Sexual Harassment. "IF A WOMEN ALLEGES THAT A PARTICULAR MAN
LOOKED AT ME IN THIS WAY, is it a sexual harassment? YES. The man can
be dismissed for it.This Act is making workplace DANGEROUS for men. 

We have to understand that once a complaint is filed, it will enquired
by a committee consisting of women, "committed to the cause of women".
Every man can guess the result of such inquiry by complain committee.
After such inquiry, dismissal from service is a mere formality. 

After enactment of this Act, every man shall be working at a place at
the "mercy" of women employee. Any women employee can get any man
dismissed at any time, for any allegations. Everything under the sun
is sexual harassment. 

Men's Rights Movement opposes the Sexual Harassment at Workplace Bill,
2010 as introduced in Lok Sabha today.  The bill is patently anti-men
and does not take into consideration the views raised by Men's Rights
Activist. The proposed Act is gender biased. It only takes into
consideration the grievances raised by women, and wholly ignores the
men victim of sexual harassment. 

The Women and Child Development Minister Krishna Tirath said the
objective was to enact a comprehensive legislation to provide safe,
secure and enabling environment free from all forms of sexual
harassment to every woman, irrespective of her age or employment
status. But, in effect, the bill is making "workplace" a dangerous
place for men to work. It is making workplace dangerous for men, as
any woman can file a sexual harassment complaint against a man without
any cause which will result in loss of reputation and loss of
livelihood. 

The definition of the proposed offence is so wide that almost anything
can be alleged as sexual harassment. It includes unwelcome sexual
behavior, sexually determined behavior, conduct which interfere with
work, humiliating conduct. These terms means different thing to
different people. After reading the definition of sexual harassment,
it is difficult to pin point if there is anything which is not sexual
harassment. Further, Even men face such humiliating and discriminatory
behavior at workplace. In view of this definition of sexual
harassment, there is no justification of making it a gender biased Act
against men. 

The proposed inquiry committee in the bill to inquire about the
complaint is baised per se. It is headed by a women committed to the
cause of women. It consists of women employees committed to the cause
of women, representative of NGO committed to the cause of women. If so
many members in the committee are committed to the cause of women,
such committee cannot be impartial in the inquiry against a man. We
fear that inquiry by such committee shall be prejudicial to men,
prejudicial to truth and prejudicial to justice. We demand that
inquiry committed must consists of people who are unbiased and
objective, who can examine the complaint in an unbiased manner. 

The proposed Act gives anonymity to the complainant, but no such
anonymity is being given to the man against who complained has been
filed. It will result in character assassination of man, defamation of
man and will result in grave prejudice to men. The provision of
punishment of false accuser is worded in such manner that false
accusation cannot be established in any case. Further, no provision
for complained by men against false complaint or intimidation of false
complaint has been provided in the bill. Further, there is no
provision for compensation for falsely accused man has been made in
the bill. 

Men's Rights Movement demands that to stop menace of sexual harassment
at workplace, a gender neutral bill be brought which provides for
unbiased and fair inquiry. The law must punishes the wrong doer, and
must also protect the innocent and compensate the innocent accused
adequately.
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History of IPC 498a as known to common man

History of IPC 498a as known to common man 

Before 1980′s dowry deaths were said to be a widespread menace at
least in the lower economic strata of the society. There were laws to
punish the offender in the cases of murder and suicide of married
woman. But in certain scenarios where wife attempt to suicide but
survived, offenders were set free because they cannot be charged
with:- 

IPC 307 (murder attempt) because it was a suicide attempt
IPC 306 (Abetment of suicide) because suicide never happened.
Act 46 of 1983 with reasonably high level of clarity explains in its
‘Statement of Objects and Reasons’ that the said amendment is to deal
effectively on dowry related harassment. Supreme Court has iterated
the same in various judgments. 

Allegation of abuse of law 

A good explanation about the abuse of this law is given by Dr. Anupama
Singh in her petition. I would like to add that due to the heavy
misuse of this law, finding genuine cases are harder than finding a
needle in the haystack. The source of data shown below is from
National Crime Records Bureau. 

Motives for Abuse 

IPC 498a is not the only law that is getting abused in India. Where
ever there is a street fight or boundary dispute generally both
parties get admitted in hospital and accuse each other for the
“injuries”. Theft cases to cheat insurance companies are another good
example. Now the new one, aside from IPC 498a, to add to the list and
will come to top in the list sooner, rather than later, is Protection
of Women from Domestic Violence Act because of its inherent lenient
nature to literally rob money and property from men in the household. 

The key motives behind the abuse of family laws are money, precisely
ALIMONY.  At present India has no set rules regarding alimony and men
or women don’t know how to handle separation; existence of multiple
maintenance laws are making divorce battle more miserable. On the
other hand this is the best indicator that women have now come forward
to the mainstream and no longer an under privileged class. 

A typical dowry harassment allegation leads to:- 

1)     Husband facing threats on personal safety and that of his
family from wife and in-laws. Unable to cop up with the harassment, a
good number of them opt for suicide too. [NCRB data show below] 

2)     Arbitrary arrest of husband and his entire family without any
investigation. 

3)     Husband’s home, possessions and livelihood are at high risk and
deprived by law. – Courts order huge bail amount without looking at
merits of the complaint. Those who are in Government job get suspended
because of arbitrary police custody and remand. NRIs loose their jobs
because they cant join back to work on time. 

4)     Husband’s have absolutely no recourse when those who exercise
power over them abuse it – highly discriminatory treatment by the
police and courts because of the social and statutory requirement to
favour women. 

5)     Violates the fundamental right to live with dignity. 

Prevention is better than cure 

Plugging the holes in IPC 498a may solve the current problem for the
time being, but legislator should recognize the sea change that India
has undergone, and is undergoing, and the dire need to overhaul the
entire family laws at the earliest and there should be a rapid
mechanism for sustained social engineering so as to reduce the
irretrievable damage that it makes to the grass root level man-woman
relationship. 

Let me do some math here. 

Total number of 498a cases registered in 2008 = 1,64,861 

Approximate number of accused, taking an average of 5 per case =
8,24,305 

Total number of dowry deaths reported in 2008 = 8172 [Source: NCRB] 

If I’m forced to believe that dowry harassment and death exist in this
21st century, how much would it be proportionately, taking this death
count to face value? Not to mention that the legal PRESUMPTION and
mandatory inquiry upon anyone’s request shoots up the dowry death
figures in the book. 

In Narender Singh Arora Vs State (Govt. of NCT Delhi) & Ors. Honorable
Delhi High Court stated 

“5. This case is a reflection of mentality which is now taking grip of
parents of a deceased wife in the criminal cases. Whenever a woman
dies an unnatural death within seven years of her marriage at in-laws’
house, whatever be the cause of death, the in-laws must be hanged.
This case also shows how truth is losing significance because of the
ego of the litigants to see that in-laws should be hanged.” 

Center for Social Research, a feminist organization, in its 2005
report admits that 98% of 498a cases are false and do not end up in
conviction. That makes the number of convictions as per the data given
above to 3297. Reading all those facts and figures together I tend to
believe that IPC498a is been used in its true intend, only in case of
REAL dowry death that means ONLY along with IPC 304(B). 

That being said, when we have more powerful laws IPC306 (Abetment of
suicide), IPC 307 (Attempt to murder), IPC 302 (Punishment for murder)
where the punishment is 10 years and even capital punishment, what is
the need to keep IPC 498a just for harassing crores of men women age
old parents and even children? 

Indian Express in today’s news (02-dec-2010) reported “Woman, paramour
booked for pushing husband to attempt suicide” which says
“The police said Trivedi told them that he was mentally harassed and
threatened by his wife Archana, whom he married six months ago. He
claimed Archana asked him to file a divorce case and claimed alimony.
She reportedly threatened to slap a dowry case against him and his
parents and book them under domestic violence Act. Based on the call
details and SMS produced by Trivedi, the police have registered a case
against Archana, her Jamnagar-based brother Harish Dave and her lover
Anil Goswami,” said Gandhidham police. The preliminary investigation
revealed that Archana and two other accused have been threatening
Trivedi and book him under dowry case, if he refused to give her
divorce.” (http://www.indianexpress.com/news/woman-paramour-booked-for-
pushing-husband-to-attempt-suicide/719119/0) 

I would like to point to the first section of this document again and
request the panel to double check, whether or not we as a nation have
achieved the goal, the original intend of Act 46 of 1983. Twenty seven
years had gone by, altogether new generation having totally different
attitude and mentality with totally different goals and ambitions in
life getting into marriage and even live-in relationship; do the
circumstances that lead to Act 46 of 1983 still exist? 

Over 76,000 people were arrested while TADA was in force from 1987 to
1995.  The conviction rate for these arrests was less than one
percent. TADA was later repealed on the grounds of human rights
violation. From year 1995 to 2008, 1,575,164 cases were registered
under section 498a of Indian penal code and with an average of five
accused in each case the number of arrests made was approximately
7,875,820. Is this over 7million gross HUMAN RIGHTS VIOLATIONS not
enough to wipe off this notorious section from the rule books?